I’m Gretchen Ekins, MSW, LCSW, (she/her) and I created Becomingness Therapy around a simple idea: people are rarely one thing at a time. We can be capable and overwhelmed, certain and unsure, deeply shaped by our past and still actively creating what comes next.

You may understand yourself remarkably well and still find that understanding isn’t enough to change what happens when you become overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, stuck in a pattern, or emotionally flooded. Perhaps you think deeply, feel intensely, or find yourself repeatedly returning to the same worries, reactions, relationships, or questions. You may have learned how to function well on the outside while things feel considerably more complicated internally.

My approach to therapy is thoughtful, active, and collaborative. I will work to understand not only what you are experiencing, but what maintains it—and what might help you respond more effectively. I work with anxiety, depression, trauma, emotional dysregulation, rumination, difficult relational patterns, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, and complex periods of change. My work integrates evidence-based approaches with careful attention to your individual experience rather than trying to fit you into a predetermined formula.

I believe effective therapy creates space for both acceptance and change. You do not have to arrive at therapy knowing exactly what is wrong or what needs to happen next. We can begin with what is happening now and work from there. Becomingness reflects something central to how I think about psychotherapy: we are never finished products. We are perpetually learning, adapting, & integrating.  Continually becoming.

People are complicated. Good psychotherapy should be able to hold that complexity.

Becomingness can become the practice for people who have insight but remain stuck, experience emotion intensely, live with contradictory feelings, have tried to “figure themselves out,” and want therapy that combines acceptance, challenge, compassion and effectiveness.

Becomingness Therapy, a virtual private practice providing Therapy throughout Wisconsin. Clinical Supervision and Personal Growth Consultation virtually and in person in Delafield, WI.